Sherri Nickols on 7 Steps to Sparkle!

Sherri Nickols on 7 Steps to Sparkle!

Are you one of the millions of women who have forgotten who you are? Do you desire to be playful, sensual, enchanting but don’t remember how (or maybe never learned)? Are you stuck in a daily routine that leaves you asking, “ Where did that fun-loving, sexy woman go?” Face it. You’ve changed. Somewhere along the way, you lost your Self. During Lisa’s 30 Day Get Out There Challenge, I invite you to rediscover your Self. Finding the road back to your feminine, sparkling essence is easier than you might think. As women, we need to know how to connect with our “Enchantress” energy, our innate juiciness so we can feel and live fully. It’s time to acknowledge your inherent beauty; embrace with gratitude your womanhood; honor and respect your divine light; wake up and discover the playful, adventurous woman in you! When you give yourself permission to live in this radiant state you will be able to attract all the goodies of life. How do you achieve this dazzling state? By retrieving and polishing your sassy sparkle with consistency and conscious actions. To make it easy for you to get the sludge off your shine, here is a simple 7-step formula that spells out S.P.A.R.K.L.E. S… Is for Smile Smiling lights you up from the inside out. No matter what you look like flashing your pearly whites will always make you sparkle and your eyes twinkle. And it’s the quickest way to communicate your joy, happiness, love, friendliness and approachability. On the flirtatious side, a smile is equivalent to a feminine lair—inviting a man into your space.. Smiling is always a win-win. P… Is for Passion Passion is that effusive energy that screams, “I’m ALIVE.” It brings vibrancy to your entire being showcasing your gorgeous goddess spirit. Passion seduces everyone in its path with its fiery flames. If you want to captivate your man simply figure out what ignites your soul. A… Is for Attitude A positive attitude is more than a cheery disposition—it’s connecting, owning and embracing the fullness of who you are. It’s the brilliant mastery of recognizing the negative aspects that you face, and choosing instead to focus on the hope and opportunity available within...

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Bobbi Palmer on How To Date Like A Grownup

Bobbi Palmer on How To Date Like A Grownup

  One of my father’s favorite sayings is “it’s a good thing to want.” I used to think that was his sarcastic way of brushing off my wishes and dreams as a child. Now I understand that he meant it literally. It’s our desire for things that propels us to achieve. It’s why we a have a good job or career, good friends, and comfort in our lives. For me, when it came to finding my life partner, the space between the desire and the achievement seemed monumental. There were so many things in my life that I had “conquered” but I just couldn’t figure the man thing out. Conversely, there are things I thought I didn’t want, and ultimately realized I did. That was true of my desire to be married. For a long time (into my 30s), I was convinced that marriage wasn’t something I wanted in my life. But I finally admitted that it was something I badly wanted…and I found my spectacular life partner at 47, when I was a first time bride. Once I truly acknowledged I wanted it – and said it out loud – the scale tipped from fear to desire – and I set out to claim it. Here are some steps I took to get there: 1. Be honest and go for it 2.Some things are just too important to let get away Finding a great guy and lasting love is one of those things. Forgo your fear, overcome your disappointment, and let yourself feel the need and desire to connect with a man who loves and adores you. Get honest with yourself. Make sure it’s your grownup gal making the list; not the insecure 18 year old girl who judged based on what 18 year old boys wanted. Then go out and attract a real man who brings you what you want and need. You won’t let yourself settle for less. 3. Put it out there In life, getting what you want often involves making it known that you want it. In dating, that means letting men know when you are interested. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen women lose opportunities to get to know nice...

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Eris Huemer on “Are All Men Jerks?”

Eris Huemer on “Are All Men Jerks?”

Are you at the point in your life where you say to yourself, “All Men Are Jerks!”? One of the things that I hear my women clients (and gay male friends) say over and over again when they first come to me is: “Where have all of the good men gone?” Or, “All of the good guys are taken!” Do you have a history of dating the same “Mr. Wrongs” over and over again? Do you seem to repeat the same issues in relationships time and time again? If so, then it’s easy to believe that ALL MEN ARE JERKS. The truth is that all men are NOT TAKEN and NOT EVERY ONE IS A JERK. As you continue rocking Lisa’s 30 Day Get Out There Challenge, I invite you to change your beliefs about men. Of course there are some situations where the man is not on his “best behavior.” So, why were you with him in the first place? And even more importantly – why did you stay? The question for you is: what are you doing in your relationships that attract the same men and situations over and over again? What is it in you that you need to heal? See, it’s not all about him and what he is doing or has done. IT REALLY IS ALL ABOUT YOU. Thinking that all men are jerks is a limiting belief on love. More limiting beliefs about love are: * All men cheat. They can’t be trusted. * All good men are taken/married. * I don’t deserve love. * There is no love for me. * I am unlovable. * I don’t deserve to be loved. * Love doesn’t really exist or last. * Who would want me? I’m too old, fat, unattractive… * I’m too busy to date. * Love is pain, so I don’t want it I suggest that you change your negative thinking and know that there are great guys (and girls) out there. Shift your Limited Beliefs on love to Unlimited Beliefs about the Abundance of love. A few common examples are: * There are faithful and committed men. They can be trusted. * There are many available men. * I deserve love....

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Morgana Rae on Love Magnet Magic

Morgana Rae on Love Magnet Magic

There’s nothing more attractive to what you want, especially in realms of romance and love, than feeling good about yourself. And nothing kills your sense of self worth faster than settling for what doesn’t make you happy. There’s a nasty little trend going around the love advice community, telling women (and men) that they should lower their standards, that they’re wrong to hold out for that special someone they admire, respect, and desire. Can you imagine? In fact there’s a best selling book out there that argues women should settle for whoever will take them. This is a perfect formula for couples who don’t feel worthy of love. (No wonder there are so many unhappy marriages out there!) Let’s not even go there. Before you step out on your first date, we want to supercharge your love magnet with easy, authentic, happy self-confidence. Nothing to prove and nothing to buy, and you’ll feel the difference immediately. Here’s the secret: When clients are stuck and not manifesting their desires, I have them take a look at what they’re tolerating in their lives. What do they put up with that drains their energy? Where are they settling? We all have tolerations: those people, things, or habits that drain our energy, dim our life enjoyment. It could be a messy desk, or a critical relative, or not taking care of your health. We may have become so accustomed to certain tolerations that we feel that’s just the way life is. We don’t think we have a choice. We feel powerless, and that sense of powerlessness bleeds into other areas of our lives. Every time you settle, you are telling the universe that “this is good enough,” and you are telling yourself, “I don’t deserve better.” If that’s your message, of course you’ll keep getting more of the same! When you’re life is full of settling, you aren’t leaving room for what you really want, especially in love. Turning this around is easy. Make a list of what you’re tolerating: the things in your life that don’t make you happy. Then pick out ONE toleration to tackle. I recommend starting with the smallest. A little goes a long way. The smallest changes build...

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Robyn Vogel On What Is Flirting Anyway?

Robyn Vogel On What Is Flirting Anyway?

During Lisa’s 30 Day Get Out There Challenge, are you wondering how to get started again after being out of the dating scene for so long? Are you wondering if you are still “in the game” – if anyone is going to find you attractive and if you have what it takes to attract someone? If you answered yes to any of those questions, you have a lot in common with most women who find themselves single after years in a relationship. Well, I have confidence in you. I believe anyone can rejoin the world of flirting and dating at any point in their lives. Yes, there are a handful of skills you need to hone before going out to a party, club or social gathering with high hopes of attracting someone. Flirting is an important skill to master, but an easy one to learn. Flirting is a very broad term. What comes to mind when you hear the word? The first thing that comes to me is a feeling of self-confidence: a self-assured man or woman with a warm, bright smile along with body language that says, “It’s safe to approach me” or “Stay there and I will approach you.”  The smile and body language communicate that the interaction will be fun, playful and engaging. Who wouldn’t respond to an invitation like that? Flirting is: eye contact that connects the confidence to share yourself with someone else breathing into feeling vulnerable and approaching someone anyway initiating that conversation and staying present with it having the courage to be yourself and not follow anyone else’s rules without expectation (or an end goal) playful, direct and honest (I can’t emphasize this enough!) is sexy and sensuous but not sexual (unless you choose it to be) and most of all flirting is a conscious choice to communicate interest in another Here is one tip to get you started on your foray into the land of flirting and dating. Get paper and pen and write down all the amazing and unique things about you (go ahead, do it now). What are the top 3 things on that list that other people love about you? In a brief interaction with a prospective date,...

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Julie Spira on How to Be Single and Ready to Mingle

Julie Spira on How to Be Single and Ready to Mingle

Perhaps you’re newly single and you’re waiting for your friends to fix you up. Before the phone starts to ring with potential dates excited about meeting you, you need to get in shape. Just like exercising before the summer to lose weight and fit into that bikini, you need to get ready to go out there and shine like the star that you are. Here are some of my favorite pre-dating tips on how to get ready for your hot date. Try implementing them during Lisa’s 30 Day Get Out There Challenge. 1. Leave the Baggage Behind If you are still pining away for your ex, have a conversation with yourself about why you are no longer together. Better yet, take a piece of paper and write down some of the negative traits to remind you it’s time to move on. Was he controlling? Did he have a roving eye? A bit too jealous? You need to dismantle him from the pedestal he was on and get ready for a new and exciting beginning. No guy is going to want to hear about the one who broke your heart. I have a saying, “Every Relationship Serves a Purpose, But is Limited.” Stand in front of the mirror and repeat it. It truly works. 2. Dress the Part How you dress tells a story. Men love to unwrap the package, so don’t reveal too much. A man will undress you with his eyes, even on your first date. It doesn’t mean he’s ready to jump into bed with you. Be subtle, and it’s still sexy. It’s just not an instant invitation to the bedroom. 3. Embrace Your Girlfriend Network Let everyone you know you would like to be fixed up. Mention it at the nail salon and hairdresser. Have a conversation at the post office with someone you might recognize. Find a supportive network of women who are single and can understand what it’s like to be in between relationships. Create a “Girls Night Out” which could include a movie with pre or post film cocktails. Dress flirty and smile. Let the men wonder, “Who’s that Girl?” 4. Practice the Art of Flirting Smile at men at the grocery store....

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Jennifer Gauvain and Anne Milford on 3 signs you need to call off your wedding

Jennifer Gauvain and Anne Milford on 3 signs you need to call off your wedding

As a relationship therapist and researcher, we’ve talked to hundreds of women who married the wrong guy for the wrong reason. What’s even more amazing is that every one of them knew they were making a mistake as they were walking down the aisle.  What can we learn from their mistakes? If you hear yourself saying any of the following, it may be a sign that you need to call off your wedding or end your relationship: “If it doesn’t work out, we can always get a divorce.” If you are already thinking that divorce may be in your future, it should be a big red flag about the relationship. Divorce is a miserable, messy and expensive. The women we talked to said it was the most painful experience of their life. Even when YOU are the one serving the papers — it will be more stressful than you ever imagined. Don’t walk down the aisle with someone you’re not sure about. “We’ve dated for so long; I don’t want to waste the time I’ve invested in the relationship.” Don’t marry a guy just because you’ve dated him for a long time. Length of relationship does not equal healthy relationship. If you’ve been settling for a ho-hum, less than fulfilling romantic relationship, don’t turn it into a boring, unhappy marriage. He doesn’t have to be a liar and a cheater to be wrong for you. “Things will get better after the wedding.” What you see is what you get! Your relationship will not instantly change and improve after you get married. An unfaithful fiance will be an unfaithful husband. A short-tempered and dishonest boyfriend will be a short-tempered and dishonest groom. Don’t marry someone thinking they will change. If your groom-to-be has character traits or issues that you don’t like — don’t fool yourself into thinking they will magically disappear after your wedding. While the women we talked to were very different, their reasons for going through with a mistaken marriage were surprisingly similar. We heard variations of these same three reasons over and over again. If you are telling yourself the same things, or believe that you may be marrying the wrong guy — you need to put...

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