Arielle Ford on Magnetizing Mr. Right
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on August 13, 2011 - 7:00 AM
If you don’t know Arielle Ford, you SHOULD. She’s the guru when it comes to manifesting Mr. Right without ever dating again.
According to Arielle, finding true love is possible for anyone at any age if you’re willing to prepare yourself to become a magnet for love. She used the techniques in her book The Soulmate Secret to bring her soulmate into her life at age forty-four. They were engaged three weeks later and have been happily married for over ten years.
The techniques, rituals, and projects found within will allow you to prepare your home, body, mind, and spirit for the soulmate your heart truly desires.
And btw, The Soulmate Secret works for men and women of all ages. It even worked for Arielle’s 80 year old mother-in-law, Peggy!
Here’s what I know for sure: Finding true love is possible for anyone at any age if you’re willing to prepare yourself, on all levels, to become a magnet for love.
This wonderful Universe of ours is set up to deliver the people and things we draw to us that our consistent with our personal belief system. If you don’t believe you will ever find the ONE, then, guess what? You get to be right …you probably won’t.
If, however, you learn to believe that the ONE is not only out there but is ALSO LOOKING FOR YOU, then true love can be yours.
The basic Law of Attraction states that you will attract to you those things that match your state of belief.
Believing that your soul mate is out there is critical to the preparation of manifestation.
I believe that the Universe is always mirroring back to us our beliefs about ourselves and the world. If we believe the world is a loving and friendly place, then most of the time that will be our experience. But, if we believe the world is a chaotic, stressful and fearful place, then that becomes our reality. So, believing and knowing that your soul mate is out there is the most important part of the formula.
What if I told you that it’s not your job to know HOW your soul mate is going to appear? What if I told you it’s only your job to be ready, willing and open to love. Think about it this way: You really don’t know where air comes from but you do believe that it’s always there for you, right?
The same is true for love. It’s there for you. It’s always been there for you. You just need to remember the love that you are and once you do, the Universe will deliver to you the perfect soul mate.
Here is what worked for me and I know it can work for you: When I was in my early forties I decided to manifest my soul mate using everything I had ever learned about manifestation, psychology, spirituality, and the Law of Attraction. My intentions became crystal clear while I simultaneously cleared out the clutter in my house AND in my heart. I learned and invented techniques, rituals, visualizations and prayers that helped me prepare my body, mind, spirit and home for an amazing relationship. And they worked. I met my husband, Brian, who has exceeded all of my desires and expectations. He was and is everything I ever wished for.
Finding true love is possible for anyone at any age if you’re willing to prepare yourself to become a magnet for love.
Want more tips on how to magnetize Mr. Right?
Start by taking your man blinders off.
Then unlock the secrets of going from Ice to Nice.
And be sure to check out the top 30 places to meet men this month!
Want to start Lisa’s 30 Day Get Out There Challenge from the beginning?
About The Expert
Arielle Ford has spent the past 25 years living and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is the author of THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest the Love of Your Life with the Law of Attraction. She also created THE SOULMATE KIT to help singles manifest Mr. Right in no time.
Day 30: Celebrate YOUR success!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on August 12, 2011 - 7:00 AM
Woohoo! Welcome to Day 30 in my 30 Day Get Out There Challenge!
What was your favorite part of the challenge? What did you find most challenging?
Did you gain new dating skills, like how to flirt, how to talk to men, and how to be a man magnet in target rich environments.
What kind of results did you experience?
I can’t WAIT to here how you did during the challenge.
Even if you only implemented a few of the tips, celebrate your success. Treat yourself to a mani-pedi. A glass of wine. A relaxing massage. And keep rocking these tips moving forward.
And be sure to share your Woohoo!s here on the blog.
Neva A. Lockhart on why Unconditional Love is a Lie
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on August 11, 2011 - 7:00 AM
During Lisa’s 30 Day Get Out There Challenge, I invite you to shift your thinking about what love really looks like so that you can find the kind of love you truly deserve. First, let’s get real about unconditional love.
We all long to find the love of our life, and when we do, we want that love to be all dressed up in “unconditional love.”
We believe having unconditional love is not only what the soul requires, but that it will somehow fortify our relationships and guarantee our unions will last. We believe it to be the greatest expression of love that can be exchanged between individuals and therefore we all want it. So, why is unconditional love so illusive and unattainable?
We all know the term is used time after time in various ceremonies as well as when describing the love parents have for their children. In fact, the term unconditional love is used as the epitome of that kind of love.
So, really then, what does unconditional love mean?
I want to ask you a few questions about unconditional love.
1. Have you been looking for a person who would be willing to love you unconditionally?
2. If so, what does being loved unconditionally mean to you?
3. Do you know how unconditional love should feel?
4. Is the unconditional love you seek physical or emotional?
Please take a minute to think about your answers. Connect with your thoughts and feelings on the term. Doing so will be pertinent to you understanding the truth about unconditional love.
Did you find your truth about unconditional love?
Did you gain clarity on the mate of your dreams by defining what unconditional love is?
If you were able to answer any of those questions, you should know that you just set yourself up for failure.
Shocked? Don’t be.
There is no such thing as unconditional love. The very idea of unconditional love is a lie. The mere statement “I want someone to love me unconditionally” is, in fact, a condition.
Ladies – we need to have conditions on our love! It is misleading and confusing to think we do not. Putting conditions on love is not at all a horrendous gesture. It is an essential element in creating lasting and fulfilling relationships.
Case in point, we want to be loved in a way that makes us feel good about ourselves and the person we love. None of us should allow ourselves by word or action to be disrespected in anyway. We do not want to give love and not receive the love we put out. This, too, is a basic condition of love. Is this a new thought? No. Universally, ALL wedding vows have conditions. Remember this one, “I promise to love you in good times as well as bad;” or how about this one “until death do us part.” Again, these are conditions.
Conversely however, if you say to someone or they say to you, “I love you unconditionally,” what actually is being said is that neither of you are under any obligation to return the love you expect or deserve. Unconditional love means love with no expectations or requirements. To ask for a love with no expectations or requirements is to ask for no love at all.
What we all want is really basic. We want someone to love us they way they would love themselves. No person in their right mind would inflict emotional pain or physical harm on themselves. We want to be respected and honored and not humiliated or treated badly. So, conditional love NOT unconditional love is a requirement. You must love me with respect, honor and dignity. Conditions.
Do not be fooled by this overly dramatic term. Look at it for what it is, deceiving and misleading.
And finally, heard of “tough love?” You hear it in relation to the kind of love parents have to implement with children that have taken a wayward course. Even parents have limits and conditions on their love, as they should.
So when you are out there looking for Mr. Right, know the true Mr. Right will not try to trick you into believing you can love each other unconditionally. If you meet a man who does try to sell you on that lie, run the other way and keep looking!
Now that you know the truth about unconditional love, it’s time to get real about these other pressing dating issues:
Are Fairytales F***ing With Your Head?
Are You Bringing Excess Emotional Baggage on Dates?
Does Your Inner Bitch, Damsel In Distress or Shero Show Up On Dates?
About The Expert
Day 29: Do you know the difference between Mr. Next and Mr. Right?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on August 10, 2011 - 7:00 AM
With just two days left in my 30 Day Get Out There Challenge, let’s review what you’ve been learning…
You’ve broken free from your belief that all men are JERKS.
You’ve unlocked the secrets of staying sexy, stylish, AND single over 40.
You’ve even learned how to date like a grownup.
Next, it’s time to understand the subtle differences between Mr. Next and Mr. Right. That way, when he shows up, you can recognize the difference.
Mr. Next is any guy you date who’s got potential. You can date Mr. Next as long as you want until you realize that he’s not a suitable match for you and your long-term goals and relationship requirements. Once you recognize that he’s not the guy for you, let him go. That way, you cut down on wasted dating time for both of you.
Mr. Right on the other hand is an elusive but oh so worth the wait guy who meets all of your relationship requirements, is emotionally available for commitment, and shares similar values and long-term goals. It takes time to find Mr. Right, and that’s fantastic! Not just anybody can be your perfect partner. Choose wisely.
For more on the sometimes subtle differences between Mr. Next and Mr.Rright, pick up my book If He’s Not The One, Who Is? What went wrong and what it takes to find Mr. Right.
And be sure to share your Woohoo!s here on the blog.
For more tips like this, check out http://lisasteadman.com/category/30-day-challenge/
Catherine Behan on Before You Try E-Harmony, Get a Dose of ME-Harmony
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on August 9, 2011 - 7:00 AM
Here’s some great advice from my friend Catherine Behan on how to check yourself before you wreck your love life…
“I hate on-line dating!” Maggie sighed. “Everyone lies and posts pictures of themselves from 15 years ago.”
“I know what you mean,” moaned Lisa. “I want a guy over 6 feet and the last three matches were all under 5? 8!”
Can you relate? Have you worked and worked on your online dating profile and still attract people you would never pick for yourself? What’s wrong with the system?
Personally, I have worked with many people who have had excellent results with online dating. Some, though still single, really enjoy the people they have met through these dating resources. So what’s the deal? Why aren’t more people lucky in on-line love?
If you aren’t finding a good match, could it be that YOU are not a good match? Is it possible that you aren’t projecting the whole picture? If you are attracting people that are not even close to your ideals, you just might need to focus on a little ME-Harmony before you go to E-Harmony.
Long time singles like yourself have a Lost Love Legacy that holds your future captive. Each person you have encountered along the way…BFFs included, have left a sort of footprint in your mind and heart. Some past relationships have been good and the breakups mutual. But, the fact is, all past relationships have disappointments and heartbreak that lodge themselves in your heart.
No one is perfect. People hurt each other in relationship when misunderstandings happen, no matter how hard you try not to. When you attract the exact opposite of who it is you want to be with, it is a sure sign that you are coming across with a confusing vibration. The Law of Attraction is relentless and always brings exactly what you are vibrating…not what you are hoping for.
One part of you craves to be loved and adored. Another fears opening deeply to let love in. One part of you wants to co-create a marriage that works. Another part is intimidated by the negotiating it takes to walk it out.
One part of you wants a partner who is open and vulnerable. Another part of you is terrified of being open and vulnerable. See what I mean?
When you focus on ME-Harmony, you learn you can accept your doubts and fears and still move forward. Making peace with the ghosts of relationships past is the fastest way to get there. Each heart break in your past holds the power to make you an amazing partner. You did the best you could with what you knew at the time. Finding self compassion and letting go of your hurts and disappointments will bring you to a place of shining self confidence.
When you have ME-Harmony, you may not even return to online dating. There is nothing more irresistible than a happy, confident person. Your luck in love will surely change when you choose that as your primary goal!
Curious about how to bring that harmony to yourself? Take the Soul Mate Quiz right here: http://AttractYourSoulMateNow.com
About The Expert
Catherine Behan is a gifted teacher, author, speaker, seminar leader and coach who has been helping people find True Love for over 30 years. She is the creator of “Seduce Your Saboteur: How To Enchant, Engage and Enlist Your Strongest Ally and Find True Love In 6 Months or Less.”
Day 28: Does the idea of finding Mr. Right freak you out?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on August 8, 2011 - 7:00 AM
I rarely talk about what to do AFTER you meet a great guy.
And yet I find that this is where most women truly struggle.
We say we want love. We say we’re ready. And then when someone really great shows up who’s interested and available, we freak out. We sabotage. We run the other way.
Sound familiar?
As someone who has been there and done that, I had to break free of my own fears about actually finding love. My fears of being seen, heard, vulnerable, not to mention being in a relationship with an imperfect person. I had been looking for perfection for so long I couldn’t even accept a good man into my life when he showed up.
Until I broke free of my fear of what love actually looks and feels like.
If the idea of being in a relationship, taking risks, being vulnerable, and falling in love with an imperfect person terrifies you, pay attention to that. And works to shift your thinking.
Healthy and happy life is imperfect. You do have to be vulnerable. And that’s okay. That’s fantastic!
Surrender to the imperfectness of love. Give good guys a chance. And be willing to be imperfect yourself.
Got questions? Post them here.
For more tips like this, check out http://lisasteadman.com/category/30-day-challenge/
Lakeshia Ekeigwe on The Truth About Being Single
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on August 7, 2011 - 7:00 AM
When Lisa invited me to participate in her 30 Day Get Out There Challenge, I gladly accepted. I love sharing the truth about being single with single women everywhere. And the truth is…
You’ve been lied to.
How have you been lied to?
- The lie that you are supposed to love being single, and that something is wrong with you if you do not accept and embrace your single life just the way it is.
- The lie that you are lacking in self-love and self-esteem if you know you would rather be married than single.
- The lie that “the universe” may intend for you to be single so that you can accomplish great things.
- The lie that lust and/or money can replace love.
- The lie that you are “too picky.”
These were just some of the lies I heard when I was single, and I was sick and tired of them.
The circumstance of being single, when you would rather be married, just does not feel good. If it did, a whole lot of reality TV and ALL of the online dating services would cease to exist.
Would you like to know the truth?
The truth is you are inclined to being mated.
The truth is you are inclined to sharing your life with someone.
The truth is you are inclined to love.
The truth is you are not supposed to be single.
The truth is in your biology.
Yes, the truth is in your biology! Every 28 days or so, women are physically, hormonally and emotionally, either preparing to menstruate, menstruating or recovering from menstruation. What is the sole purpose of the menstrual cycle? To reproduce. What does it take to reproduce? A man.
We are instinctively drawn to being mated because the continuation of the human race depends on it. That is it. That is the biological truth about being single. You are not supposed to be.
So, you want a partner for life. You want to be married. Well guess what, that is precisely how you should feel.
Unfortunately, single women have been made to appear bitter, stupid and foolish for even thinking that their lives would be better in a happy, loving marriage. But, take a moment to think about it, does it not make perfect sense that you would prefer to join in the most basic ebb and flow of humanity from the beginning of time — that of having a mate and creating a family.
Want more of the truth? Good, I have more.
It is okay to feel that being single is not how you thought your life would be.
It is okay to feel that you would be happier married.
It is okay to know that you would feel complete – yeah, I said it; “complete” meaning NOTHING is missing – with a partner to share your life with.
It is okay to have very high expectations of the man you will share your life with. In fact, his wonderfulness should mirror yours.
It is okay to refuse to settle for less!
How will this information help you “find Mr. Right”? Well, hopefully you are now liberated from old beliefs that were confusing and self-defeating, eliminating some pressure. You no longer need to defend and justify your singleness! That said, you can now shout from the rooftops – I WANT TO GET MARRIED! - and enjoy the journey to finding your Mr. Right who will shout that out right back to you!
About the Expert
Lakeshia Rivers Ekeigwe is a Personal Development Coach and co-author of the book The Truth About Being Single. She works with individual clients and groups, facilitating classes and webinars designed to help people live the lives they want as they deepen their self-awareness and build greater self-esteem. She can be found at www.thetruthaboutbeingsingle.com and www.coachkesh.com.
Day 27: Are you addicted to a man’s potential?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on August 6, 2011 - 7:00 AM
Be honest. Do you fall over and over again for a man’s potential, only to be devastated and disappointed when he doesn’t measure up?
Stop. This is a vicious cycle you need to break free from.
So many women believe that a man’s potential is who he really is.
They’re wrong.
Who a man is TODAY is who he really is. Trust that. Believe that. And don’t try and change him.
If you cannot accept a man for who he is right this minute, don’t date him. Falling in love with potential will only leave you feeling frustrated. And it will only make your man feel like a huge disappointment.
It doesn’t matter if he’s the most talented artist, the most amazing singer, uber smart with tons of potential. If he’s not living up to that potential today and you can’t accept that, do not date . Period.
Instead, get clear about what you really want. Stop dating in extremes and date in the middle. And love yourself enough to stop sabotaging your love life by falling in love with potential.
Got questions? Post them here. I can’t wait to hear from you!
For more tips like this, check out http://lisasteadman.com/category/30-day-challenge/
Relationship Red Flags: Three things you must know by Jennifer Gauvain, MSW, LCSW
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on August 5, 2011 - 7:00 AM
Earlier in my 30 Day Get Out There Challenge, I introduced you to Jennifer Gauvain, co-author of the fabulous new book How Not to Marry the Wrong Guy: Is He the One or Should You Run? I’m thrilled to share Jennifer’s amazing insight into relationship red flags and how to stop ignoring them.
As you continue dating and meeting men during and after Lisa’s 30 Day Challenge, I want you to keep something in mind. When it comes to relationship red flags, there are three things you must know:
1. You can’t ignore them.
2. They are different for everyone.
3. Your gut feelings help you recognize them.
Let’s be honest. We all know what red flags in relationships are. They are seriously unappealing or problematic actions, attitudes and behaviors exhibited by your partner. We’ve seen countless articles detailing red flag after red flag. The problem is that while we recognize them, we often choose to ignore them.
My friend Jincey dated a guy who was 38 years old and lived with his mother. “I knew that was a red flag, but I ignored it,” she says. “One night, not too long after we started dating, we went back to his mom’s house to watch TV. He stripped down totally naked and sat on the couch. His mom brought us snacks and he just sat there. She cleaned up and ignored the fact he was naked. He must have done it all the time!” So what’s wrong with watching TV naked? Jincey said the real problem was his child-like dependence on his mother. Guess what? She married him anyway and it didn’t end well. “He could barely take care of himself and was terrible with money. He had a hard time keeping a job. He was sweet, but so irresponsible. He didn’t want a wife, he wanted another mommy.”
She would have saved herself a lot of heartache—and money—if she had paid attention to the irresponsibility red flag that was flying from the very beginning. “I just wanted the relationship to work out,” says Jincey. “I was tired of being alone.”
The other often misunderstood fact about red flags is that they are different for everyone. Jealousy, meanness, and avoidance are common red flags. And while it’s important to be aware of these red flags, a one-size-fits-all list doesn’t address your gut feelings. A-life-of the-party-girl may see extreme shyness as a red flag in a potential mate. Or a sports fanatic female may be turned off by a guy who dislikes sports. Or….maybe she won’t. Everyone’s different. So how do you know what a red flag is for you? Your gut will tell you. Or that little voice in your head will start to speak up and point out a potential problem in your relationship.
Katie, a 27 year old teacher, confesses that she is stuck in a relationship with the wrong guy. He’s a nice guy, but there are several red flags that are stirring up her gut feelings. “He sees the world as a sea of options, and has a hard time deciding what he wants to do,” she says. “Then, when he decides on something, he has a hard time sticking with it. That’s a red flag to me. And my gut questions his ability to help any family we might have someday. He also seems to care more about his adventures and his life than he does my own. It makes me think that he won’t be there for the important milestones in my life.”
Katie’s inner wisdom recognizes these red flags. Let’s hope she find the courage to take action. Here are some things to think about to make sure you can recognize red flags, and more importantly, not ignore them:
• When his behavior bothers you, pay attention. Is the little voice in your head trying to warn you about something? Don’t look the other way! Think about the behavior that concerns you and reflect on it.
• Ask yourself if you are changing your behavior in response to your boyfriend or partner’s behavior. Are you walking on egg shells? Are you avoiding difficult conversations? If you do try to talk about something, how does he react?
• Fast forward ten years. How will this particular behavior or attitude play out in the future? Will he be a good dad? A good friend? A solid employee? A reliable husband?
When it comes to red flags, what you see now is what you get later. Once you train yourself to recognize—and act on—the red flags in your relationships, you are on your way to a happier, more satisfying life. The choice is yours!
About The Expert
Jennifer Gauvain is the co-author of How Not to Marry the Wrong Guy: Is He the One or Should You Run? (Broadway/Random House, May 2010). She is a marriage and family therapist with clients around the country. For more information visit her website at coldfeetpress.com.
Has your life changed in 30 days? Mine has!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on - 7:00 AM
Whew! What a month it’s been!
Here’s just some of the highlights, both exquisite and excruciating…
- My 8 Week If He’s Not The One, Who Is? Teleclass launched and is now in Week #4
- I attended an AMAZING (and you may even say life altering) five-day event with brilliant success coach David Neagle in Las Vegas
- I started a detox program and have lost 6 pounds (remember my goal of losing 20 by Valentine’s Day? Woohoo!)
- Our beloved cat Maya became suddenly and seriously ill and we had put her to sleep
Honestly, I could go on and on about how the last 30 days have been truly transformational for me.
But I’d rather hear from you.
How has your life transformed in the last 30 days?
What have you been celebrating, struggling with, and/or shifting?
It’s been a rough month, don’t worry. It doesn’t mean you’re not making progress.
It may mean you’re FINALLY facing your demons, dealing with resistance, and possibly changing your life for the better.
At least I hope that’s what all the struggle and strife is about. I’d hate for you to be struggling and suffering without any payoffs in the end.
The amazing women in my 8 Week If He’s Not The One, Who Is? Teleclass have been undergoing massive transformations. And while it’s not all easy and fun, they’re always sharing the power of those shifts. I’d like to share some of their emails with you…
On Week #1:
I just wanted to let you know that I absolutely LOVED the call last night. I got so much more out of it than I expected! WOW!! AWESOME!
On Week #2:
“I just want you to know that these calls are amazing and are really helping me work through things and realize things I haven’t in the past. I want to thank you for all you have done for me and continue to do. You are truly an amazing person and I am grateful everyday that you are part of my life.”
On Week #3:
“I’m still totally amazed by my experience last night. I felt like it completed a circle for me. For as long as I can remember, I have been stuck with emptiness and thinking I didn’t deserve to be happy and positive. I have spent years telling myself that God loves me over and over trying to feel better. But last night I was able to feel the love I had for myself as my “wise old self” looking at who I am right now.”
On Week #4:
“I finally realize that I am not going to settle for crumbs, shortchange myself or settle for less than I deserve. The next time I fall in love it will be with someone who can reciprocate. I will no longer be just a place holder. And I now know how to forgive myself for being and staying in a relationship that wasn’t working.”
Pretty amazing, isn’t it? I’m so honored to lead this class and so proud of the women who are changing their future every day.
btw, I just opened enrollment for my next 8 Week If He’s Not The One, Who Is? Teleclass. Even though class doesn’t start until 2010, you can enjoy a super fabulous 35% discount AND get plenty of hands-on support (a.k.a. private coaching!) through the holidays when you sign up now!
Truthfully, life isn’t always easy. That’s why you’ve got to ask for help…
While I have experienced tremendous bliss in this last month, I’ve also felt excruciating loss with the passing of my very first pet, our beloved cat Maya.
My husband and I didn’t even know she was sick until she started vomiting uncontrollably and drooling. We were blessed that we weren’t traveling and got to be home with her in her final week. It went so fast!
Honestly, making the decision to put Maya down was one of the hardest decisions of my life. I felt confused, scared, sad, angry, and lost. Kind of like how you feel when losing someone you love to a breakup or divorce, right?
I’m thankful I didn’t go through this all alone. I had my husband, my family, and an incredible vet, who we finally found after much frustration, thanks to our dear friend Marissa, who’s a vet in San Luis Obispo. When she heard Maya was sick, she dropped everything to review medical records, xrays, and make thoughtful suggestions and referrals.
In the end, we did what was right for Maya. And when she died in my arms, surrounded by the most compassionate vet on the earth, my mother, my sister, my husband, and myself, we all cried tears of both sadness for our loss and joy because it was such a dignified end to such a beautiful life.
And that’s when it hit me.
When we leave a relationship, or when someone leaves us, we don’t always get a dignified ending.
We don’t always get to celebrate the love we shared because we’re often too focused on the loss, the pain, and the tremendous sadness we experience.
We wallow because we’re afraid to let go and be alone, to lose our love, and to start again.
But starting over is essential.
Not only that, it’s healthy!
My husband and I have started over in a world without Maya. Our cat Buster has started over and actually relishes being Top Cat for the first time ever. Maya isn’t with us anymore, but she’s far from forgotten. She’s in our hearts, our memories, our framed photos, and in little moments that remind us of her. We regularly talk and laugh about her cute little pink nose, how she liked to be scratched between her ears, and how she flirted with every man who ever set foot through our front door, including, and most especially my husband.
Over the years, Maya and I had been through numerous breakups, plenty of heartbreak, and while she loved each and every one of my boyfriends, she loved my husband best of all.
Scratch that – she worshiped and adored my husband. Sometimes I think she wished she had him all to herself and didn’t have to share him with me.
And I think my husband relished the role of being the provider in the house, taking care of his sometimes-needy, often bossy, but genuinely loving ladies. Between me and Maya, he had his work cut out for him!
Now that Maya’s gone, the balance of energy has shifted in our home. I’m now the lone female living with two sweet, sensitive, adoring, lovable men, my husband and our cat Buster. It’s now my turn to take care of the men in the house, and I LOVE doing it!
Sometimes I’m sad when I think of Maya, but mostly, I’m happy because wherever she is, she’s happy, peaceful, and pain-free. And I survived putting her down, something I didn’t think was survivable.
But I’m still here.
And so are you.
If you’re struggling to pick up the pieces and move on with your life, I want that to change right this very minute.
Today, I invite you to start LIVING beyond the pain, loss, despair, and grief you’re experiencing.
I also invite you to celebrate the love you once had, give thanks for having experienced it, and LET IT GO.
I invite you to stand up, give yourself a big, fat hug, and remind yourself that you SURVIVED.
You SURVIVED the loss of love.
You SURVIVED the uncertainty of life without your ex, of standing on your own two feet, of being single again.
When will you truly THRIVE?
When will you fall in love with yourself, your life, and the love that’s still here?
When will you celebrate your strength, resilience, and power?
Let today be the day.
Today, I invite you to:
- Take a look in the mirror and get to know the amazing, brilliant, brave woman staring back at you
- Take an inventory of what you’re thankful for, both in your life and from your last relationship
- Celebrate the fact that you loved, you lost, and you’re still here
And then go out and do something bold, brash, and beautiful!
Maybe you’ll get a makeover, chopping your locks, and stepping into the most fabulous version of yourself…
Maybe you’ll put on your most booty-licious jeans and strut your stuff down the street, flirting with strangers…
And maybe you’ll finally get up the courage to talk to that cutie you always see in the latte line, on the subway, or at the grocery store…
Give yourself permission to have fun! (You deserve it!)
When in doubt, check out my daily video tips on how to heal your heart by New Year’s Eve.
And if you have any questions, e-mail ask@lisasteadman.com.
I’m here to support you and help you re-awaken to that blissful, beautiful, abundant life you deserve to live.
It won’t always be easy, but it will be well worth the effort, I promise!
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