Day 21: Are you REALLY ready for love?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 21, 2012 - 7:00 AM
I talked to so many single women who think they’re ready for love. And yet when I ask them how they’re making room for it in their lives, or how they’re getting ready for their perfect partner, they just looked at me blankly.
You need to be ready for love in order for it to show up. That means checking your emotional baggage. Clearing any remaining personal clutter from your life. Making space in your home for him. Making space in your heart for him.
Today, make a list of what you need to do to get ready for love. Maybe you need to surrender to not knowing when he’ll show up. Maybe you need to break free of the pain of your past. Maybe you need to de-clutter your home.
Make a list of what you need to do to set the scene for love. One by one, check things off the list.
What do you need to do to get ready for love? Share it here!
And good luck with this tip. If you need help, ask me. I’m here for you!
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Day 20: Don’t be THAT Girl
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 20, 2012 - 7:00 AM
Are you a bitch? A princess? A damsel in distress? A Shero?
If so, it may be sabotaging your chances of meeting Mr. Right.
Today, get clear about the dangerous personas you carry around with you like a chip on your shoulder.
If you’re an entitled princess who believes that every man should give you everything you want, that’s not very attractive. Good men don’t like dating princesses.
If you walk around waiting to be rescued and not taking responsibility for your life, what man is going to want to date you?
If you lead with your resume and incredibly masculine energy, a man will feel irrelevant around you. He’ll also feel emasculated.
To understand which dating personas you walk through life with, grab a copy of my book If He’s Not The One, Who Is? What went wrong and what it takes to find Mr. Right. There’s a whole chapter on how to break free from these dangerous personas.
Once you break free, surrender to not knowing when Mr. Right will show up. Celebrate yourself and your fabulous life. And make room for someone special.
Good luck! Report your progress here.
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Surrender to NOT knowing when Mr. Right will show up
Are fairy tales F***ing with your head?
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Day 19: Surrender to NOT knowing when Mr. Right will show up
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 19, 2012 - 7:00 AM
Are you pissed off that Mr. Right hasn’t shown up yet?
Are you so stressed out about when Prince charming will ride in on his white horse that you can’t see straight?
Do you feel like Charlotte did on Sex & The city before she met Trey, wondering where your dream man is?
Do you often find yourself wondering aloud, “Where is he?!”
I get it. I’ve been there. And yet this intensity is messing with your chances of meeting Mr. Right.
If you feel ridiculously behind schedule, you don’t have accurate thinking. You’re far too focused on what’s NOT in your life rather than what IS.
Today, take a chill pill. Relax. Surrender to the unknown.
You don’t know when Mr. Right’s going to show up. So why try and control it? Why not simply surrender to the fact that that part of your life is still unfolding? And that’s exciting!
Let go of your need to KNOW. Surrender to the imperfection of not knowing. And get on with your fabulous life.
Now that you know how to put yourself in target rich environments, how to flirt, and how to talk to men, you’ve already cut down on wasted time waiting around for some guy. Celebrate that! And continue rocking my 30 day challenge.
For hands on help pick up a copy of my e-book Bad Love No More! and my latest book If He’s Not The One, Who Is: What went wrong and what it takes to find Mr. Right.
Good luck! Report your progress here. I’d love to hear from you!
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Day 18: Want to find Mr. Right? Fall madly in love with yourself!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 18, 2012 - 7:00 AM
Psst…Want to know the surest way to have a man fall madly in love with you?
Fall in love with yourself!
The truth is, we teach people how to treat us by how we treat ourselves. When you fall madly in love with yourself, warts and all, you show the universe that you have compassion.
You show the people in your life how healthy and happy you are. And that’s attractive to a good man.
Think about it. Would a healthy and happy man really want to get to know someone who was miserable?
No. And since the only kind of man you want to attract is someone who’s healthy and happy on his own, you must become healthy and happy, too. And that starts with falling madly in love with yourself.
Today, make a list of 20 reasons why you’re a fabulous catch. Give yourself permission to gloat with glee. Have fun doing this! The more you can connect to all the fun and fabulous ways you rock, the more you can celebrate yourself.
Again, the surest way to magnetize a man who will love and appreciate you is to love and appreciate yourself. This may feel challenging at first. Don’t give up. Keep at it. Practice makes perfect!
Once you’re madly in love with yourself, revisit your relationship goals. Reconnect to how you want love to look and feel. And then be open to meeting healthy and happy man wherever you go.
Above all else, have FUN!
For hands on help pick up a copy of my e-book Bad Love No More! and my latest book If He’s Not The One, Who Is: What went wrong and what it takes to find Mr. Right.
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Day 17: Is it time to hire a dating coach?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 17, 2012 - 7:00 AM
The purpose of my 30 Day Get Out There Challenge is to help you get out of your own way, push past your comfort zone when it comes to meeting cuties, and give you the tools and techniques to make the most of meeting and flirting with men.
As you rock my challenge, you may find that you need some professional help. While your flirting skills are getting better, you may not know the first thing about how to dress to impress.
Or your wardrobe may be datable, but you don’t have the proper dating skills.
Or you’re so trapped in your limiting beliefs about what’s possible for you in life and love, that you don’t accurately see all the amazing men in your everyday life.
It may be time to call in a professional. Today, get really honest with yourself. Give yourself permission to enlist the help of a professional, whether it’s a coach, stylist, therapist, personal trainer, matchmaker, or some other expert who can help you break free of whatever’s holding you back from meeting men and finding love.
I’ve been bringing you a lot of guest experts during the challenge. If one of them speaks to you, feel free to approach them. Enlist their help. Or reach out to me and ask for help. We are all committed to your success and want to see you living and loving your dream life!
Got questions? Post them here. I’d love to hear from you!
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Day 16: Are Fairytales F***ing With Your Head?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 16, 2012 - 7:00 AM
Do you believe Prince Charming is out there?
Are you waiting for your White Knight?
Or worse, do you believe in The Bad Boy With The Heart of Gold?
Wake up, Sleeping Beauty. This is 2012. And fairytales are seriously f***ing with your head!
Only when you break free from any sabotaging beliefs about love can real love show up.
So wake up, kick off those glass slippers, and get ready for the real love deal. It’s so much better than the fantasy anyway.
To help break free from fairytale trap and any other lies your mother told you growing up, pick up a copy of my book If He’s Not The One, Who Is? What went wrong and what it takes to find Mr. Right.
And be sure to share your success with me here on the blog. I’d love to hear from you!
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Check out the links below for finding the RIGHT Prince Charming!
Want to find Mr. Right? Find madly in love with yourself FIRST
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Day 15: Are you a dating extremist?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 15, 2012 - 7:00 AM
Do you only date in extremes — the nice, boring guy or the crazy bad boy? (Think Drew Barrymore and Justin Long vs. Drew Barrymore and that Fabrizio Moretti)
Stop it already!
It’s time to wise up, date differently, and get a different result.
Instead of yo-yoing between men who bore you and men who infuriate you, why not find a more satisfying middle ground? Men who appreciate you, call you, like you, respect you, want to spend time getting to know you…
Seriously, if you want to change your dating results, stop the extreme dating and START dating in the middle. It’s NOT boring. It’s freeing and fabulous.
Check out the links below for Rockstar tips on finding and dating the RIGHT one.
Are you considered ice instead of nice? Six ways to be more approachable
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Day 14: Do you feel ungrateful about your love life?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 14, 2012 - 7:00 AM
While it’s perfectly normal to want to have love in your life, if you feel ungrateful for the love already IN your life, you’ll never make room for more.
Starting today and every day moving forward in my 30 Day Get Out There Challenge, give thanks for the many extraordinary gifts in your life. From your family to friends to pets to your home, you are BLESSED.
When you celebrate what’s already HERE, you make room for so much more to show up, including a grateful and appreciative man.
And once that amazing man shows up, practice gratitude for him, get your flirt on, implement these tips for having meaningful conversation, and enjoy!
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Day 13: How will you recognize love?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 13, 2012 - 7:00 AM
I talk to so many single women who all say they know the kind of love they DON’T want, but they have no idea what the kind of love they DO WANT looks like.
Today, start getting clear about the kind of love you DO want.
What does it look like?
How does it make you feel?
Start journaling about it. Meditating on it. Creating a vision board for it.
Do whatever it takes to regularly connect to the kind of love you WANT to experience. And continue connecting to it throughout the remainder of my 30 Day Challenge.
Want more tips on manifesting Mr. Right? Check out the links below!
Do you believe all the good ones are taken? Think again.
Do you know how to choose men?
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Day 12: How to believe good men are out there
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 12, 2012 - 7:00 AM
Be honest — do you believe there are no good men left?
If so, you will be RIGHT.
You’ll also be ALONE.
If you want to meet someone special, you have to believe he exists.
You need to open your mind to the idea that good men ARE out there.
And to start, pay attention to the good men in your every day life. The ones who compliment you, support you, inspire you, or even just open the door for you!
By SEEING the good men in the world, you’ll shift your thinking, get out of your own way, and start to celebrate good men. In doing so, you’re more likely to attract one.
Now, once you start celebrating and attracting good men, you need to know what to do next.
First, make sure you always leave the house feeling cute, desirable, and sassy. That way, when a cutie’s checking you out, you can confidently strike up a conversation, practice your flirting techniques, and become the chooser in your love life.
Oh, and don’t forget to HAVE FUN!
For more tips like this, check out my 30 Day Get Out There Challenge.
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