Day 30: Celebrate YOUR success!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on March 1, 2012 - 7:00 AM
Woohoo! Welcome to Day 30 in my 30 Day Get Out There Challenge!
What was your favorite part of the challenge? What did you find most challenging?
Did you gain new dating skills, like how to flirt, how to talk to men, and how to be a man magnet in target rich environments.
What kind of results did you experience?
I can’t WAIT to here how you did during the challenge.
Even if you only implemented a few of the tips, celebrate your success. Treat yourself to a mani-pedi. A glass of wine. A relaxing massage. And keep rocking these tips moving forward.
And be sure to share your Woohoo!s here on the blog.
Click here to start my 30 Day Get Out There Challenge for Singles.
Day 29: Do you know the difference between Mr. Next and Mr. Right?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 29, 2012 - 7:00 AM
With just two days left in my 30 Day Get Out There Challenge, let’s review what you’ve been learning…
You’ve broken free from your belief that all men are JERKS.
You’ve unlocked the secrets of staying sexy, stylish, AND single over 40.
You’ve even learned how to date like a grownup.
Next, it’s time to understand the subtle differences between Mr. Next and Mr. Right. That way, when he shows up, you can recognize the difference.
Mr. Next is any guy you date who’s got potential. You can date Mr. Next as long as you want until you realize that he’s not a suitable match for you and your long-term goals and relationship requirements. Once you recognize that he’s not the guy for you, let him go. That way, you cut down on wasted dating time for both of you.
Mr. Right on the other hand is an elusive but oh so worth the wait guy who meets all of your relationship requirements, is emotionally available for commitment, and shares similar values and long-term goals. It takes time to find Mr. Right, and that’s fantastic! Not just anybody can be your perfect partner. Choose wisely.
For more on the sometimes subtle differences between Mr. Next and Mr.Rright, pick up my book If He’s Not The One, Who Is? What went wrong and what it takes to find Mr. Right.
And be sure to share your Woohoo!s here on the blog.
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Day 28: Does the idea of finding Mr. Right freak you out?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 28, 2012 - 7:00 AM
I rarely talk about what to do AFTER you meet a great guy.
And yet I find that this is where most women truly struggle.
We say we want love. We say we’re ready. And then when someone really great shows up who’s interested and available, we freak out. We sabotage. We run the other way.
Sound familiar?
As someone who has been there and done that, I had to break free of my own fears about actually finding love. My fears of being seen, heard, vulnerable, not to mention being in a relationship with an imperfect person. I had been looking for perfection for so long I couldn’t even accept a good man into my life when he showed up.
Until I broke free of my fear of what love actually looks and feels like.
If the idea of being in a relationship, taking risks, being vulnerable, and falling in love with an imperfect person terrifies you, pay attention to that. And works to shift your thinking.
Healthy and happy life is imperfect. You do have to be vulnerable. And that’s okay. That’s fantastic!
Surrender to the imperfectness of love. Give good guys a chance. And be willing to be imperfect yourself.
Got questions? Post them here
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Day 27: Are you addicted to a man’s potential?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 27, 2012 - 7:00 AM
Be honest. Do you fall over and over again for a man’s potential, only to be devastated and disappointed when he doesn’t measure up?
Stop. This is a vicious cycle you need to break free from.
So many women believe that a man’s potential is who he really is.
They’re wrong.
Who a man is TODAY is who he really is. Trust that. Believe that. And don’t try and change him.
If you cannot accept a man for who he is right this minute, don’t date him. Falling in love with potential will only leave you feeling frustrated. And it will only make your man feel like a huge disappointment.
It doesn’t matter if he’s the most talented artist, the most amazing singer, uber smart with tons of potential. If he’s not living up to that potential today and you can’t accept that, do not date . Period.
Instead, get clear about what you really want. Stop dating in extremes and date in the middle. And love yourself enough to stop sabotaging your love life by falling in love with potential.
Got questions? Post them here. I can’t wait to hear from you!
For more tips on finding Mr. Right check out the links below
Want to start the 30 day challenge from the beginning? Click here!
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Day 26: Do you believe love is out of reach?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 26, 2012 - 7:00 AM
Do you believe love is possible for everyone but you?
Are you convinced that you’re somehow the exception to the rule that happily ever after exists?
If so, then this is the REAL reason you’re single.
If our beliefs match our reality — and they do — then whatever you believe shows up for you every day.
Rather than spend another minute in despair about why love isn’t possible for you, why not instead shift your beliefs?
If needed, have amnesia for a day. Surrender to the fact that you have no idea when Mr. Right will show up. And live and love your life anyway. Pretend you have no relationship history bogging you down and TRUST that love is available for you. Tweak your love vocabulary and practice it throughout the day.
Report your progress and setbacks here. Good luck!
Want more tips on rocking the 30 day challenge? Check out the links below!
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Day 25: Plan a Girls Night Out
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 25, 2012 - 7:00 AM
Now that you know how to talk to cuties every day, how to magnetize men, and how to flirt, today is the perfect day to play! So gather your gal pals for a girls’ night out.
Be strategic about where you go and what you do. The goal is to put into practice all of the skills you’ve been learning. So start by inviting three healthy and happy single girlfriends. Identify the ideal target rich environment for all of you. Then get all dolled up, put yourself out there, and have fun.
Make sure you’re approachable and easy going. Men can be intimidated by women in groups.
Practice being each other’s wing women, scoping out cuties and making connections. Laugh, be playful, enjoy yourselves. And above all else, have fun!
I can’t wait to hear where you and your gal pals go on your girls night out!
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Day 24: F*** your beliefs
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 24, 2012 - 7:00 AM
Ever wish you could have amnesia and wipe the slate clean of your limiting beliefs and bad love habits?
Do it today. Here’s how…
Instead of walking around with the same old tired belief system that says love is out of reach, relationship success is for others, that time has run out on your chance to get love right, change your story today.
Seriously, rewrite it. Get out a pen and paper and write the story you want to have. Get specific.
See yourself falling madly in love with someone who is equally crazy about you.
Picture your dream wedding. Be there. What music is playing? What food are you serving? How does it feel to be this blissfully in love?
No, this is not some cruel joke. By having amnesia for a day and connecting to the love you want and deserve, you give yourself permission to rewrite your story. You create the opportunity to break free of whatever is holding you back from believing it can actually happen for you.
If this exercise seems trivial or pointless, DO IT. Resistance proves that you need to do this exercise. Have fun with it. Play! Get creative! Give yourself the happily ever after ending you truly desire. You deserve it.
Once you’ve rewritten your beliefs, embody them for a day. Walk around strutting your stuff and knowing that your happily ever after future already exists. Mr. Right may not have shown up yet. But he’s here. And he’s doing everything possible to get to you. So why not do everything possible to get to him, including rewriting your story?
Share our stories here on the blog. I can’t wait to hear from you!
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Day 23: Talk to a cutie who intimidates you
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 23, 2012 - 7:00 AM
Now that you’ve gotten comfortable making conversation with men you don’t know every day, learned some fabulous flirting skills, and have surrendered to the fact that you have no idea when Mr. Right will show up, I’ve got another comfort zone pushing task for you today.
Approach and talk to a cutie who intimidates you.
You heard me! Now is the time to summon up that inner strength, connect to the catch you really are, and get your flirt on with someone you find exciting and intimidating. This is the next step in your progress during my 30 Day Get Out There Challenge.
By pushing your comfort zone, you’ll blast through any remaining beliefs that say you’re not worthy of love.
Today’s task may feel incredibly uncomfortable. Breathe and do it anyway. And then celebrate yourself, no matter what the results are. You took a risk — woohoo!
Feeling challenged? Share your resistance here. Rocking today’s tip? Share that, too!
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Day 22: Are you trying to keep up with Ms. and Mrs. Jones?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 22, 2012 - 7:00 AM
Are you ultra competitive with other women?
Do you believe that there is NOT enough love or happiness to go around and so you need to hoard some for yourself?
Are you living in such scarcity, lack, and fear that you can’t be happy for other people’s success?
Today, break free of your need to keep up with the Ms. and Mrs. Joneses of the world. Learn to celebrate other women’s success and happiness. Be inspired by it. When you do, you’ll realize that there’s room for all of us at the top.
In breaking free from scarcity and lack, your new attitude will be incredibly attractive. Amazing opportunities will come your way — in life, career, success, and love. Woohoo!
For more tips like this, check outhttp://lisasteadman.com/category/30-day-challenge/
For more tips on finding Mr. Right check out the links below!
Do you feel ungrateful about your love life?
Having trouble believing good men are out there? Click here!
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Day 21: Are you REALLY ready for love?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 21, 2012 - 7:00 AM
I talked to so many single women who think they’re ready for love. And yet when I ask them how they’re making room for it in their lives, or how they’re getting ready for their perfect partner, they just looked at me blankly.
You need to be ready for love in order for it to show up. That means checking your emotional baggage. Clearing any remaining personal clutter from your life. Making space in your home for him. Making space in your heart for him.
Today, make a list of what you need to do to get ready for love. Maybe you need to surrender to not knowing when he’ll show up. Maybe you need to break free of the pain of your past. Maybe you need to de-clutter your home.
Make a list of what you need to do to set the scene for love. One by one, check things off the list.
What do you need to do to get ready for love? Share it here!
And good luck with this tip. If you need help, ask me. I’m here for you!
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